You Care Too Much: Free Yourself From Social Anxiety by Carl VernonThe insecurity, worry, self-doubt and social anxiety that come with caring too much about what people think can be overwhelming. Does this mean you should go and live a solitary life in the hills, away from people and the BS that comes with them? No. There is a better way.
From bestselling author Carl Vernon, You Care Too Much is a no-holds-barred wake-up call about what social anxiety really is, how it affects you, and what you can do about it. It will teach you to bring out your new ‘can’t care’ mentality, turning your anxiety and self-doubt into confidence and self-control.
• Discover why you care too much – and why it’s doing you no good.
• Ditch your insecurity and self-consciousness and be yourself.
• Control your need for approval from others.
• Cut out the anxiety, worry and self-doubt others cause you.
• Learn how to spot and deal with toxic people – so you can stop them from walking all over you.
It’s time to find freedom by getting the tools and answers you need to care a lot less about what people think.
I Care about You Too Much to Argue
People who think that they are mighty and powerful and who think that they can force you to oblige their wants and in fact demands even if they are contrary to your own needs etc. What you must understand about people who rely on a sense of superiority on their part or obvious signs of you feeling inferior, is that they pull their moves and if you respond by, for example, looking for validation or claiming that you love them or looking for them to be who you hoped for them to be, they realise that you care too much. They interpret a passive response or your seeming positivity and hope even in the face of shady behaviour, as a green light for code red behaviour. This all screams, I care too much. It says, I care so much that I will derive value from my interaction with you and my self-image and future perception and actions will be impacted by you. When you care too much about somebody who cares too little about you or just the impact of their actions upon others, you are pumping them u p. They think that you care so much that it will give you rose tinted glasses and a fur coat of denial.
I recently had my first yoga class where I almost "got" it. I still could barely stand on one leg, but, after committing to a weekly class for four months straight, I finally felt changes in my flexibility and my ability to feel more present. Still, instead of just thanking her, I made a self-deprecating comment about my flexibility. I began to wonder where else caring too much shows up in my life. Caring too much about writing the perfect blog post and then not writing for months , caring too much about saying just the right thing and not saying the bold thing that needs to be said , and caring too much about what others think and trying too hard to do that damn triangle pose. But when do we go overboard?
That being said what lies below is a collection of behaviors I need to stop doing immediately. So stop telling people what you think, and start asking others what they think. It not only makes other people feel bad — but it also makes you look bad. Never forget that the world is run by people who own themselves and this includes owing up to their mistakes. So stop waving your little finger, and start being a person who looks for solutions. How many times have you changed your mind because someone said you were wrong?
When it comes to how to have healthy self-esteem , it is a lifelong pursuit that involves collecting emotional data from the world around you to create a balanced view of yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes it's possible to get a little bit bogged down in one aspect of developing self-esteem: other people's opinions. You just have to be aware of to what extent you're letting things affect you.
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Do you worry too much what other people think of you? Are you constantly seeking affirmation and approval? Do you put others first at the expense of yourself? Seeking approval from others in our personal and business lives is not unusual. But in a world where we live so much of our lives online, the approval of others is more and more relevant. Have we become a society that cares too much what other people think of us? Does it hold us back?
I've always wanted to love yoga and be really good at it, but it's never worked out for me. As a runner, I understand the benefits for the long-term health of my muscles. As a coach who preaches about the power of "being" at least some of the time , I believe yoga can help cultivate presence and a deeper connection to self. And anything that includes wearing stretchy pants just seems like a good idea. So, I've struggled and pushed myself to try all different types of yoga. And without fail, it always ends with me quitting and feeling guilty about it.